如何确定一个人是否喜欢你

外向者喜欢你的10种迹象

10 Signs an extrovert likes you.

外向者们可以是出去玩儿时最有趣的那种人

Extroverts can be some of the funnest people to hang out with.

他们也可以是最懂浪漫的伴侣

They can also make the best romantic partners.

但正如之前很多人发现的那样

But as many people in the past have found out,

事实上很难辨明

it’s actually pretty hard to figure out

一个外向的人是否喜欢你

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if an extrovert likes you.

因为他们的友好和热情

This is because their friendliness and warmth

常被误认为是在调情

can often be misinterpreted as flirting,

但实际上他们对所有人都这样

when really they act that way to everyone.

有些时候其实也容易辨别出来

Other times, it can be easier to tell

因为有些外向者会直接冲上来

as so pretty much just walk right up to you

向你表明心迹的

and tell you how they feel.

外向者们是很有趣的一群人

Extroverts are an interesting bunch,

下面的一些建议肯定会帮助你来辨别

and these tips are sure to help you and figuring out whether

这些外向者们是否真的对你有些好感？

that special extrovert has a crush on you.

1. 外向者主动接触你

1. They reach out to you.

外向的人都不会害怕去接触别人

Extroverts are all about not being afraid to reach out.

也就是说他们可能在街上走着走着

That could mean that they are walking down the street,

突然地就和人聊起来了

and suddenly spark up a cnversation with someone.

这就意味着很难去分辨

This means it’s hard to tell

一个外向者是出于对你的好感而接触你呢

whether an extrovert is reaching out to you because they like you,

还是只是想找个人说说话而已

or whether they’re just really wanting to talk to someone.

这事儿谁也说不准的

There is no real way to tell,

但是喜欢你的外向者一定

but extroverts who like you will definitely try to

会去试着用某些方式接近你

reach out to you in some way shape or form.

好多人都说：“当外向者对你的喜欢

A lot of people will tell you that “you just know

超过了朋友的范筹时你会知道的”

when extroverts are interested in being more than just friends.”

刚开始的时候

They may be a little flirty

他们可能会有些轻浮

when they spark up a conversation with you,

或者拐弯抹角的强烈暗示着他们对你有意思

or heavily allude to their interest in you.

2. 外向者邀请你加入他的社交圈

2. They invite you to join their cycle of friends.

社交圈于外向者而言意味着一切

For extroverts, their circle of friends is everything to them.

所以你被邀请加入他或者她的社交圈里

So being invited to join his or her circle

很可能是他们喜欢你的迹象

might just be a sign that they really like you.

我们这么说吧

Let’s put it this way,

如果他一直都和朋友们在一起

if they’re constantly surrounded by their friends,

他们唯一能了解你的方式

the only real way they’re going to get to know you

就是让你加入其中去

is if they bring you in.

他们可能想要更好的了解你

They may want to get to know you better,

但更倾向于和一大群人待在一起

but prefer to spend time in large groups of people,

外向者们都这样

as all extroverts do.

所以对你兴趣可能源于一个大型社交活动

So the initial form of interest will come in a highly social setting,

公众的注意力在所有人身上

where the focus is on the group,

而不是你和他之间

not between you and them.

但是留心点儿一些小细节

But be aware of subtle cues,

比如他们仔细地关照着你

like them watching you carefully,

甚至在你和一大群人出去玩儿的时候也依然如此

even if you’re hanging out with a large group of people.

3. 外向者向你倾诉自己的烦恼

3. They’ll open up to you about things that bother them.

晚上者很容易向他人吐露心声

Extroverts really have no problem opening up to people.

所以这就又很难判断一个有困惑的外向者

So again, it’s hard to know whether the extrovert in question

出于对你的喜欢而向你倾诉呢

is opening up to you because they like you,

或者你是他们放眼望去刚好找到的一个能倾听的人

or just because you’re the only person within arm’s reach who will listen.

你还是得靠自己的直觉

And again, you’re going to have to use your instincts

去辨别他们真的是想和你倾诉呢

to tell you whether they really to tell you,

抑或只是想找个人谈一谈而已

or they just want to tell someone.

的确很难辨别出来

This is something that makes it very hard to tell

一个外向者是否无论发生了什么都喜欢着你

if an extrovert likes you in virtually all situations.

这也是为什么

It’s one of the reasons

外向者经常被误解为是在调情的原因之一

extroverted people are so often mistaken for flirting

但实际他们只是在做那个正常的

when in fact they’re just being their normal,

友好外向的自己罢了

friendly and outgoing selves.

在这种情况下去找找

In this situation, look for clues that

他们是在向你倾诉着

what they’re opening up to you about

很私人的问题的蛛丝马迹

is actually quite personal.

而且就一些事情而言

And seems like something

正常的人无论外向与否

normal people, extroverted or not,

你看着他的眼睛，对视超过一分钟。喜欢你的人会躲开你的眼神，会害羞，会微笑